I'm a grown woman, and I want to run away from my family!**?

Maybe it is time to take a more real break from this. Maybe getting your own apartment for a while. Neither of these men in your life are taking responsibility for their own lives and you are unable to let that happen. That isn't their fault. Let them be unhealthy, let them walk to school, let them go without picking up the mess. You can not get mad at them for your doing these things for them. You CAN be upset that they are lazy, do not care for themselves or take care of their own needs as adults. But just not that YOU are doing them. That is why i say, maybe you should move out for a while and if they do not set themselves straight, maybe you just want to stay away. Good Luck.